Expectations!

Alright ladies, I'm feeling your pain about guys these days. They kind of need to step up their game a bit. This post isn't just for the guys to pick up on some tips and expectations that ladies have (or to hate on guys either) but for the ladies too. You also need to see when to stand up and walk away and stand up for themselves. Set standards.

I asked my favorite people for advice. My family and friends. Some married, some in relationships, some dating and some single. The range is there.

Here are their expectations and their advice. Take it or leave it.

Expectation: "To have a pair of balls. And if they don't, when you like a girl, grow a pair." (JJ)

Tips: "Don't ignore your date. Bring her somewhere where she'll feel comfortable. Don't check out other women or talk about other women unless it's your mother. I expect chivalry...it seems like its long forgotten that a real gentleman opens doors (cars and buildings) for a lady, walks on the outside of the streets, compliments their dates and pays. Which I know sounds unfair but if you are trying to impress a lady it doesn't hurt to throw some hard earned cash down. Don't expect sex until SHE initiates it whenever she thinks it's the right time." (TL)

Expectation: "Honesty, trustworthy and open to COMMUNICATE their thoughts. Make a women feel like they're the only women in the world." (JV)

Tip: "Guys who are willing to like you for who you, even your flaws." (TH)

Expectation: "Don't expect much from guys. Not until they prove themselves worthy." (AM)

My expectations and tips for the guys out there? Please make the effort. It sounds so silly and minor but a lot of guys don't. They get lazy or are lazy from the start. And for you ladies? Well don't stand for that crap. As much as you may like the individual, it is definitely not worth you lowering your standards and being walked all over. I always liked the saying, "no expectations equals no disappointments" but then I thought about it and it didn't make sense. You always have to have expectations set out for everything you do in life. So why not a relationship? I believe that it is good to set expectations (reasonable ones) because that means you also have standards.

I went to a guy friend and I asked him what he thought about all of this and he gave me the best analogy. "When you buy a toy from the dollar store, it will eventually break. It is cheaply made and so it won't last long. But if you're looking for durability and a product that will last a long time, you should save up a little and then instead of going to the clearance aisle or the dollar store, you should go to a boutique."

I couldn't agree more! Now, for the guys who read this blog and feel offended. Don't. I know there are good guys out there. But also take into consideration that none of the ladies above are asking for the moon. They're simply asking for acknowledgment, respect and effort.

So the moral of the story? Guys, don't be the dollar store toy and ladies, save up and shop at the boutique. (We all love expensive things!)Got your own expectations or tips? Comment.
Xo